We all know the Golden Rule "treat others the way you want them to treat you." Well sometimes we have to treat others as they treat us...
Relationships can be challenging. It's not always easy to know how to ensure your partner feels loved. Love is so many different things to so many different people. To one person love is red roses delivered at work while another love may be something like a home cooked meal or even a car wash. Some people feel love is elaborate gifts or vacations while others feel it is simply someone to talk to at the end of the day. To some it is sex and others a firm hand to hold or a shoulder to lean on. Love is all of these things but how do we know what our partner wants from us?
Look at how they love you.
We treat others the way we want to be treated. If our partner cooks us dinner every night (whether we want it or not) it is because that is their idea of showing love. Make them dinner one night and see their response if you don't believe me.
We come together with our partners for many reasons... Similarities we sometimes take for granted our partner knows what we want and so when our needs aren't met we take affront to it because we can feel they should know better. The differences that bring us together can cease to be exciting and make us feel like they just don't understand or know us at all. These can be frustrating experiences and we forget that we have the power to take back our relationship.
One of the easiest ways to take back the relationship is to bring back the romance. In order to do this effectively we must take a true look at our partner and what they want. We can't color their want with what we think would be nice (anyone ever hear the one about intentions and the road to hell?) we have to do what they think is an example of love.
I challenge you to do something romantic for your partner. Think of the romantic gestures they have shown you and do the same or something similar - it will not only show your partner you care but that you are also paying attention!
