I've had a philosophy I have lived by most of my life.
"Don't say anything behind someone's back that I wouldn't say to their face.... and if I'm thinking it but wouldn't say it there is something wrong with my thinking."
That's not to say you should be rude about what you have to say, there is always a nice way to say things... but it's more about a self check to examine your thoughts.
If someone looks like hell ask if they are ok. If someone is messing up at work ask if there is anything you can do to help them or what they need in order to do a better job. It's not always about doing their work but helping them discover what they can do to help themselves.
Things come up in life, in all of our lives where we feel overwhelmed and instead of judging others when they are down try to remember when you last felt that way and what would have made you feel better, try implementing that in your approach to them.
If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about someone take a good hard look at what it is about them that bugs you so much.
I'd love to hear feedback about people in your life that have rubbed you the wrong way. Let's work together to examine what is at the root of your feelings and use that to empower you to keep moving forward and stop letting that negative energy slow you down.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Monday, February 8, 2010
All it takes is a simple change.
"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." -James Baldwin
Ain't that the truth? There are so many issues in the world right now, in our lives right now that we wish could be changed. What are we really doing to change them? Talking about them is good, it raises awareness but how good is that awareness without action? We discuss what's wrong but do we have ideas on what is right? Are we putting those ideas into action plans? Are we involving the right people to help us create that change to prevent the downward spiral we are heading towards? Or are we just talking about it to prepare ourselves for the worst when it happens and... that's it, just talking about it, Nothing more.
It can seem really overwhelming to try to change the world, ours or other peoples. But as Lao Tzu wrote "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." We can not change other people but we can change ourselves and that creates change in people around us and then people around them begin to change... It is the ripple effect. We are all linked to each other. We are all here on this planet together to learn from each other and teach each other.
So, task for today is to think of something you can do to start creating the change you want to come about.
If it is for more peace in the world think of how you can become more peaceful. What represents peace to you? Create that peaceful moment and share it with someone.
If it is for less hunger think of how you can help someone who is hungry. Make a few sandwiches, they can be peanut butter and jelly and give them to someone who needs them. Buy some fruit on sale at the store and maybe a few bottles of water (please recycle) and gift them to those without food or shelter.
If it is for more understanding go to someone you don't seem to understand and ask them about themselves, discover why they are the way they are... each of us has a fascinating story to tell, be open minded and not only will you discover understanding but compassion.
Become more grateful for what you have. Shower this gratitude on others who have less and that change will pay forward and return to you in a better world. How will it be a better world when so many other things don't change? You will be changed. You will be able to see how something so simple creates the spark of inspiration in others.
It's like the weight loss before and after stories. When we see others have done it we feel inspired to try it ourselves, we think "If they could do it I can do it." You are right, you can... Be the before and after. Share your experience to inspire others and they will want to feel as great as you do.
Ain't that the truth? There are so many issues in the world right now, in our lives right now that we wish could be changed. What are we really doing to change them? Talking about them is good, it raises awareness but how good is that awareness without action? We discuss what's wrong but do we have ideas on what is right? Are we putting those ideas into action plans? Are we involving the right people to help us create that change to prevent the downward spiral we are heading towards? Or are we just talking about it to prepare ourselves for the worst when it happens and... that's it, just talking about it, Nothing more.
It can seem really overwhelming to try to change the world, ours or other peoples. But as Lao Tzu wrote "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." We can not change other people but we can change ourselves and that creates change in people around us and then people around them begin to change... It is the ripple effect. We are all linked to each other. We are all here on this planet together to learn from each other and teach each other.
So, task for today is to think of something you can do to start creating the change you want to come about.
If it is for more peace in the world think of how you can become more peaceful. What represents peace to you? Create that peaceful moment and share it with someone.
If it is for less hunger think of how you can help someone who is hungry. Make a few sandwiches, they can be peanut butter and jelly and give them to someone who needs them. Buy some fruit on sale at the store and maybe a few bottles of water (please recycle) and gift them to those without food or shelter.
If it is for more understanding go to someone you don't seem to understand and ask them about themselves, discover why they are the way they are... each of us has a fascinating story to tell, be open minded and not only will you discover understanding but compassion.
Become more grateful for what you have. Shower this gratitude on others who have less and that change will pay forward and return to you in a better world. How will it be a better world when so many other things don't change? You will be changed. You will be able to see how something so simple creates the spark of inspiration in others.
It's like the weight loss before and after stories. When we see others have done it we feel inspired to try it ourselves, we think "If they could do it I can do it." You are right, you can... Be the before and after. Share your experience to inspire others and they will want to feel as great as you do.
Saturday, February 6, 2010
I'm no different
Gosh, it's been 30 days since I posted anything. SAD! Here's what seemed to happen...
I sat down weeks ago to write and as I started writing I realized I was touching on SO many things I wanted to break down a little deeper individually.... so I got frustrated, stepped away from my computer and have been mulling over exactly how to share what I've discovered... there's SO much!
All while this was happening... work got crazy, money got crazy, family got crazy... everything seemed to be falling apart. I missed being in Arizona visiting family and friends, enjoying the night sky full of stars and a moon that brought down a magical light that made me feel anything is possible. I was stressing over money and became resentful of where I live because it seemed after being in AZ that we work so much yet rarely have the opportunity to enjoy ourselves afterward.
A weekend? Two days to decompress from the stresses of work? Two days to do laundry, grocery shop, clean house, visit friends and anything else we are responsible for doing that a full time job does not allow you mean? I don't know about you but I am exhausted, not rested come Sunday night.
THIS is why I want to do what I can to share with you the joys of living your dream. When you live your dream you will be able to find joy and relaxation in a job well done, something you have accomplished that brings you happiness and gives you five days a week to feel like "ahhhh this is a life worth living."
It is possible, I promise!
So, why did my month fall by the wayside? Why should you listen to someone who has problems too? Because I am no different. This is my journey too. I'm just here to hold your hand and share with you what works for me, to listen and to use the gift I've been given to look beyond the physical manifestations of our fears and to help you realize your weapons against them.
Like right now, it would be really easy to blame everything on everyone else... or life. How many times do you hear when something goes wrong someone say to you "that's life?" Something that really bugs me about that is the lack of responsibility in that statement.
When that attitude is taken where we just have to "wait it out" makes us a victim. We don't try to reflect on how we came to be here, where we are trying to go and why these issues come up. This is a time of introspection. This is the time to look at those blockages and what I am doing to create them. It may not always seem like there is anything you are doing to create drama from apparently outside sources but there always is.
We are afraid of our own success. Right when we are about to fulfill our dream or are taking one step closer is when **it hits the fan. Something within us manifests our fears of success and failure and calls out to anyone or anything that is listening to keep us from having to keep moving forward. Recognize it because when all hell breaks loose in your life you need to know you DO have the power to regain control. This can manifest in depression and chaos in our lives.
Do not give up, give yourself time to experience and learn from the darkness that precedes our dawn. Take those brief moments before light comes to plan and prepare and discover those feelings. Dig deep within yourself and face those fears because each one that hurts us has the capability to be used as a weapon against your ego. When discovered it becomes forged in spirit and each time spirit becomes stronger you create more energy, more passion and breathe more life into the manifestation of your dreams.
In the meantime to keep me going, keep my head up and take a step closer each day to manifesting my dream I will be taking a quote a day and writing about it... Let's see where it takes us.
I sat down weeks ago to write and as I started writing I realized I was touching on SO many things I wanted to break down a little deeper individually.... so I got frustrated, stepped away from my computer and have been mulling over exactly how to share what I've discovered... there's SO much!
All while this was happening... work got crazy, money got crazy, family got crazy... everything seemed to be falling apart. I missed being in Arizona visiting family and friends, enjoying the night sky full of stars and a moon that brought down a magical light that made me feel anything is possible. I was stressing over money and became resentful of where I live because it seemed after being in AZ that we work so much yet rarely have the opportunity to enjoy ourselves afterward.
A weekend? Two days to decompress from the stresses of work? Two days to do laundry, grocery shop, clean house, visit friends and anything else we are responsible for doing that a full time job does not allow you mean? I don't know about you but I am exhausted, not rested come Sunday night.
THIS is why I want to do what I can to share with you the joys of living your dream. When you live your dream you will be able to find joy and relaxation in a job well done, something you have accomplished that brings you happiness and gives you five days a week to feel like "ahhhh this is a life worth living."
It is possible, I promise!
So, why did my month fall by the wayside? Why should you listen to someone who has problems too? Because I am no different. This is my journey too. I'm just here to hold your hand and share with you what works for me, to listen and to use the gift I've been given to look beyond the physical manifestations of our fears and to help you realize your weapons against them.
Like right now, it would be really easy to blame everything on everyone else... or life. How many times do you hear when something goes wrong someone say to you "that's life?" Something that really bugs me about that is the lack of responsibility in that statement.
When that attitude is taken where we just have to "wait it out" makes us a victim. We don't try to reflect on how we came to be here, where we are trying to go and why these issues come up. This is a time of introspection. This is the time to look at those blockages and what I am doing to create them. It may not always seem like there is anything you are doing to create drama from apparently outside sources but there always is.
We are afraid of our own success. Right when we are about to fulfill our dream or are taking one step closer is when **it hits the fan. Something within us manifests our fears of success and failure and calls out to anyone or anything that is listening to keep us from having to keep moving forward. Recognize it because when all hell breaks loose in your life you need to know you DO have the power to regain control. This can manifest in depression and chaos in our lives.
Do not give up, give yourself time to experience and learn from the darkness that precedes our dawn. Take those brief moments before light comes to plan and prepare and discover those feelings. Dig deep within yourself and face those fears because each one that hurts us has the capability to be used as a weapon against your ego. When discovered it becomes forged in spirit and each time spirit becomes stronger you create more energy, more passion and breathe more life into the manifestation of your dreams.
In the meantime to keep me going, keep my head up and take a step closer each day to manifesting my dream I will be taking a quote a day and writing about it... Let's see where it takes us.
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